Into the Wild: What the Wilderness Teaches Us About Grief, Courage, and Connection

Step by step, mile by mile—facing challenges together transforms strangers into family

Eleven of us set off into the Dolly Sods Wilderness, most of them strangers to each other and to the backcountry. The skies opened up with rain and thunder before we even took our first steps—a fitting beginning for a journey into the unknown. Packs were heavy, both literally and emotionally, so we gathered in a circle and made a collective rule: no one carries more than 40 pounds. That meant leaving behind things we thought we needed but maybe didn’t. A metaphor in itself.

As we named our fears—wet feet, germs, being unreachable—we began to see how the wilderness doesn’t just reveal our discomforts, it helps us face them. Through ankle-deep mud, river tumbles, and soaked boots, we cooked nourishing meals on tiny stoves, purified our own water, and slowly built trust—in each other, and in nature. In between the rain and resilience, we studied how the natural world supports the grieving process. There were tears. There was laughter. There was healing.

Quiet reflection and rest—the wilderness offers space for our fears and our healing.

One full day was spent in solo sit spots, just each person, nature, and time. One participant unknowingly chose a spot beside a hidden fawn who remained curled up beside her all day. Something quiet and sacred passed between them.

Moments of solitude and perspective: nature gently guiding each participant toward personal clarity and connection.

We started as strangers. We ended as a family. And I keep wondering: What is that magic that lives out there in the backcountry? What ancient part of us wakes up when we unplug, get uncomfortable, and return to the rhythm of the earth?

Whatever it is, I hope we keep finding our way back to it.

The path home feels different: carrying lighter hearts, deeper connections, and a newfound rhythm with nature.

About the Author

Dr. Heidi Schreiber-Pan is the founder and executive director of the Center for Nature Informed Therapy (CNIT). As a licensed therapist and published author, Heidi specializes in anxiety treatment, grief and loss, and mindfulness through nature-based practices. She regularly leads wilderness retreats and trainings, helping participants foster deep connections with nature to build resilience, heal emotionally, and find renewed meaning.

To learn more about upcoming grief-focused backpacking trips, visit our Backpacking Grief Training page.